Why taking action creates success

What action do you think can be taken to succeed in Grief? Where you taught that there are things you can do to help you succeed in Grief? (By succeed, I mean learning how to integrate and live with your pain and loss.)

As death, loss, and grief were never shared in my young life, I believed everything people told me and showed me about grief and how to suffer. Watching my family when death was allowed to be viewed as a young person. Our family was very stoic. Erect, quiet-spoken and never mentioning the name of the person who passed. Friends' family, on the other hand, were free to holler, cry, fall into the casket (scary to me) and even have alcohol-filled parties afterward to numb the pain. These were my teachings on how to mourn the death of a loved one.

Not until I became an adult did, I understand there is a way to create success in Grief. How is that you ask? It's called 'griefwork'. Griefwork is when you share, speak, care, and allow the pain of mourning to come forth in a controlled way with people or a person. Mostly, it's your ability to take the pain and feel the pain to heal.